Take this test to find out each other’s love language. Choose either a, b, or c and then add up your separate scores.
1 What would make you suspect that someone was Upset At you?
a) The way they look or avoid looking at you.
b) Their tone of voice.
c) A feeling you get about their comfort level with you.
2 How would you know that you had a good day at work?
a) Your desk is clear or your “to do” list is complete.
b) You had a good meeting or productive telephone conversation.
c) An inner glow or a deep satisfaction with the day.
3 What kind of holiday activity would you prefer?
a) City sights, local tour, traveling to different countries.
b) Attending lectures, Islamic plays and singing at mawlids.
c) Eating at various cultural restaurants with friends and family.
4 Which of the following group of leisure activities would you choose?
a) Cinema, photography, interior design.
b) Listening to a taped book, talking for hours with a friend or singing.
c) Sport, sculpture, cookery.
5 Which type of TV programme would you prefer to watch?
a) Art, Travel.
b) Talk Shows.
c) Cooking shows, DIY.
6 What would you prefer for an anniversary treat?
a) A weekend break away somewhere new.
b) Hearing a sweet poem read to you.
c) Your spouse cooking your favourite, romantic meal and being touched.
7 What would you do to de-stress and unwind?
a) Gaze at something relaxing, such as a candle.
b) Talk to a friend.
c) Get a full body massage or assemble something from scratch.
8 If you looked after a friend’s Kid for the weekend, how would you like to be thanked?
a) A card.
b) A phone call.
c) A dessert or a hug.
9 Which of the following groups of jobs most appeal?
a) A fashion designer, house décor, accounting, or retail business.
b) Lecturer, customer service or telesales.
c) A gardener, a handyman, nursing or counselling.
10 What do you like to have in your home?
a) Lots of calligraphy, color, and beautiful decoration.
b) Wind chimes.
c) Soft cushions, tool shed, and big pots/pans for cooking up a storm.
11 How would you discipline your children?
a) A piercing look or frown.
b) Your tone of voice or lecturing.
c) Punishment by deprivation, eg, no pocket money, or actively acting out how they should have behaved instead.
MOSTLY A’s means you are a visual person.
MOSTLY B’s and you’re auditory.
MOSTLY C’s and you’re kinesthetic.
If your answers are evenly split, refer to the detailed analysis of the character types to see which one most closely matches your personality.
Check out TayyibaatWives Love Language Gender Comparison Chart.
HOW YOU & YOUR HUSBAND MATCH UP
BOTH VISUAL: You both love photography, traveling, and giving each other presents.
SHE’S AUDIO; HE’S VISUAL: Sweet nothings mean more to her than a bouquet. She should use visual language otherwise he may appear quiet and pensive.
SHE’S KINESTHETIC; HE’S VISUAL: She should use gestures he cannot fail to see like putting her hand on his.
SHE’S VISUAL; HE’S AUDIO: Both enjoy the theatre and TV. Though he says he loves her, she needs to see evidence, such as a surprise gift.
BOTH AUDIO: You will have a shared love of nasheeds and conversation. But there’s a danger of talking at each other.
SHE’S KINESTHETIC; HE’S AUDIO: She needs hugs, not terms of endearment, but he will prefer to hear ‘I love you’ rather than be caressed.
SHE’S VISUAL; HE’S KINESTHETIC: You instinctively read each other’s body language. However, you may avoid talking about important matters. You may have different interests so you need to focus on give and take.
SHE’S AUDIO; HE’S KNIESTHETIC: His feelings run deep and she can help him to talk about them. But she needs to hear him say ‘I love you’. He may feel she talks too much and be overwhelmed.
BOTH KINESTHETIC: A very physical relationship, but a danger of short tempers and hurt feelings.
Taken from an NLP website.