Love Language Gender Comparison Chart (Composed by TayyibaatWives)

Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) Practitioners studied individuals and discovered that most people show love according to three distinct modalities. They categorized these distinctions into three languages of love: visual, audio, and kinesthetic. Discover your love language and your husband’s love language by taking this online quiz inshaAllah.

After coaching several women, TayyibaatWives then gathered general observations of the different love languages based on genders, but there can definitely be exceptions. Please email help@tayyibaatwives.com if you believe that our descriptions do not match up to your love language or if you have suggestions of what can be added so it is more precise inshaAllah.


Love Language: Visual

 “See” Me

Man

Woman

Descriptive Qualities
  • concerned about appearance
  • loves to travel and shop
  • enjoys beautiful scenery
  • detailed
  • motivated by financial success
  • concerned about looking beautiful
  • loves to travel and receive gifts
  • enjoys beautiful scenery
  • detailed
  • organized and neat
What’s Super Important
  • lifestyle – quality of food eaten, dress, where to live, how the house looks, what car to drive, outward quality of  items
  • giving gifts
  • spending money freely
  • cleanliness, neatness, organization
  • receiving gifts
  • nice clothes
  • looking good
  • shopping
  • clean house
  • ironed clothes
  • organization
  • presentation
What Hurts or Annoys Them
  • angry and hurtful facial expressions
  • not having eye contact when talking
  • sloppiness, things out of place, a mess
  • ‘seeing’ their wives not follow their orders
  • angry and hurtful facial expressions
  • not feeling beautiful
  • not going outside
  • not receiving gifts
  • untidiness and disorder
What They Need to Feel Loved

 

  • to feel like a fantastic provider/spender
  • appreciating, wearing, and using their gifts
  • clean and neat house
  • nicely dressed wife
  • structured life and household
  • to be noticed and thanked for: their beauty, nice clothes, clean house, and neatness
  • to be given gifts and taken out
Key Body Language When Interacting With Them
  • your facial expressions, nodding, looking them in the eyes
  • your acts of affection are visually noticeable, like putting hand on their shoulder or thigh
  • having them physically see that you agree with them

Love Language: Audio

 “Hear” Me

Man

Woman

Descriptive Qualities
  • the singer, storyteller, or sweet talker
  • good listener
  • likes to motivate, tell stories, and encourage
  • loves to talk
  • good with history and facts
  • the singer, storyteller, comedian, or talker/explainer
  • good listener
  • likes to encourage, give compliments, and make people smile
  • loves to read
What’s Super Important
  • soft tones of voice
  • engaging conversation
  • feeling heard
  • being verbally motivated and encouraged
  • being told ‘I love you’ often and sweet compliments
  • engaging conversation
  • feeling heard
  • being verbally appreciated
What Hurts or Annoys Them
  • silent treatment
  • not being thanked or cheered on vocally
  • harsh talk / tones
  • ‘hearing’ their wives use discouraging words or verbal insults
  • silent treatment
  • not being thanked or complimented vocally
  • harsh talk / tones
  • being told off or put down
What They Need to Feel Loved

 

  • verbal appreciation for their listening and giving advice
  • cute talk
  • compliments
  • lots of thank you’s
  • verbal appreciation for their listening and giving advice
  • compliments
  • lots of I love you’s
Key Body Language When Interacting With Them
  • your tone of voice
  • not interrupting when talking to them
  • giving the impression that you’re interested when listening

 Love Language: Kinesthetic

“Feel” Me

Man

Woman

Descriptive Qualities
  • enjoys people’s company
  • hands-on
  • solves everyone’s problems
  • mr. fix-it
  • super hero
  • acts on his gut more than any other man
  • loves relating and connecting to people
  • often the upbeat one at the party
  • moody and sensitive
  • touchy, feely
  • can change from being very happy to very sad quite quickly
What’s Super Important
  • consistently active bedroom life with physical touch outside bedroom
  • quality time with family and friends
  • food
  • being cheered on and supported
  • fixing things
  • feeling loved
  • being cuddled and touched
  • quality time with family and friends
  • being the best chef or eating while hanging out
What Hurts or Annoys Them
  • feeling limited or held back
  • feeling like they cannot solve a problem
  • not being touched
  • ‘feeling’ like their wives don’t believe in them
  • not feeling loved
  • feeling alone or abandoned or rejected
  • ‘feeling’ disconnected from the other person
  • feeling criticized
What They Need to Feel Loved

 

  • to be touched
  • to feel understood
  • to feel like a good provider and protector
  • quality time
  • to feel taken care of in areas that he can’t do, like cooking, etc.
  • to be a hero
  • to be touched
  • to feel loved and supported
  • quality time
Key Body Language When Interacting With Them
  • your touching and physical closeness to them
  • holding hands, hugs, massages, etc.
  • intensity of the moments together

 

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