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- Marriage Advice
In a marriage, experiencing disappointment is normal. The gold lies in transforming these moments of upset into opportunities that deepen connection. The first step is to practice letting go of the original hurt feeling and overcoming it with the power of forgiveness. When we forgive, we open the door to emotional intimacy. Many times we close the door on ourselves. We resolve that we’ll ONLY forgive when our spouse does ‘x.’ But forgiveness is not conditional – it is a gift that we choose to give someone from the genuineness of our souls and the depths of our faith.
The Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace) said: “Fear Allah wherever you may be, and follow a bad deed with a good deed – it will wipe it out, and treat people with good character.” (Tirmidhi) We learn from this hadith that there is always a way to turn around the wrong that one commits by following it up with a good act for the sake of Allah Most High. The same principle applies to a marriage. For every wrong committed, there is an opportunity to repair hearts, learn something new about each other, and strengthen your team spirit inshaAllah. Don’t allow bad feelings to ruin your marriage. Always take the initiative to follow up a wrong with a right, and your relationship will prosper inshaAllah.
It’s really easy to point fingers, but it’s not a good solution for marriage problems. Blaming makes the other person feel attacked and become defensive, which only causes more discord. Focus on what is the solution, not who is the problem.
O’Allah make our actions a means to earning Your Divine pleasure. O’Allah place goodness and blessing in our words. O’Allah wash away our sins and the sins of our ummah. O’Allah forgive us and guide us to a path that increases us in love and worship of You. O’Allah make us of those who emulate the beloved Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace).
The Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace), said “There is nothing heavier in the scale pan of a believer on the Day of Judgement other than good character.” (Tirmidhi) Make your scale pan heavy. Compete in good character in your marriage and be a winner with Allah Most High inshaAllah.
My parent’s celebrated their 40th wedding anniversary last week mashaAllah. Dad’s advice: Be tolerant of each other. We’re always working on our marriage. Mom’s advice: Work with each other, not against each other.
Valentine’s Day: Alhamdulillah, we learn from our Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace) that kindness and love are constant, not conditioned to days of the year.
Everyone makes mistakes. What’s important is that we make tawba, learn from our errors, and promise ourselves to do better inshaAllah.