In a marriage, experiencing disappointment is normal. The gold lies in transforming these moments of upset into opportunities that deepen connection. The first step is to practice letting go of the original hurt feeling and overcoming it with the power of forgiveness. When we forgive, we open the door to emotional intimacy. Many times we close the door on ourselves. We resolve that we’ll ONLY forgive when our spouse does ‘x.’ But forgiveness is not conditional – it is a gift that we choose to give someone from the genuineness of our souls and the depths of our faith.